Hey there, my name is Clay and welcome to Get Back My Girlfriend.
This website is for guys who want to learn how to save their relationships from a break up. These are the same tips and advice that I’ve used to get my girlfriend back myself when I got dumped not once, but three times.
Things didn’t work out with that girl in the end, but I did get pretty good at figuring out how to get your ex girlfriend back. I want to share those tips here with you.
But first, check out this video. I didn’t make this video, and that’s not me in it, but I think it does a good job of explaining why many relationships end in break up. Can you see where your relationship may have turned south?
Okay, so carrying on…
What I’m going to share with you might be a little bit counter-intuitive, but
The first thing you need to know to get your girlfriend back:
A lot of the natural instincts you have about saving your relationship are simply not effective.
Don’t worry I’ve been there myself. I’ve done a lot of things that don’t work to get my girlfriend back. I begged, I pleaded, I called her ten times in one day.
I guess I thought that if I could just show her how much I loved her and how much I cared, that she would see that and want to get back together.
But that doesn’t work because, you see, when your girlfriend breaks up with you, no matter what reason she gives you, it’s because she really wants space away from you and the relationship (at least for now).
When you constantly try to contact her, you aren’t giving her the space she wants. She feels that she has to push away even harder to get that space away from you.
So the harder you try, the further she’ll push you away, until you’re out of her life for good.
You’re having natural instincts with your emotional reaction (I did some university research on this!), but you really need to try to fight those instincts.
The second thing you need to know to get your girlfriend back:
Since what our instincts tell us to do doesn’t work, you need to do the opposite.
You need to cut contact with her, using No Contact. This gives her that space she wants. This will make her really respect you and it will help make her more receptive to talking to you again in the future.
Plus, it gives you the time you need to heal from the pain of the break up yourself. No matter, how strong you might try to be, you have to admit that you’re probably not running at 100% these days.
Take time to use No Contact to give yourself a chance to heal and get your emotions under control so that you can have the best chances of getting your ex back.
The third thing you need to know to get your girlfriend back:
Some people will try to use manipulative tricks and mind games to try and “hack” their ex girlfriend’s mind to force her to fall back in love with them.
Although, I can understand why you might feel you need to resort to methods like these, you also have to realize yourself that using tactics like this will only set your relationship up for failure in the long run.
Besides, how lousy would you feel if you secretly knew that your girlfriend wasn’t with you because she wanted to be there with you, but only because you used some sneaky trick? If you’re like me, that doesn’t sound like a very fulfilling relationship to have.
Instead, you need to become the kind of guy who naturally attracts the love of his life back to him in a way that leaves both of you feeling good.
If you want to learn more, here is a little video I made to help you get started.
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