Arguing with Girlfriend? – Stop the Bickering and Be Happy
It’s bound to happen sooner or later: arguing with you girlfriend. No matter how great a relationship is there comes a point where the two of you are bound to have disagreements. Tempers flare, and before you know it, the two of you are having an argument.
Heck, even if you “win” the argument, you still usually feel pretty lousy afterward. How can stop arguing and learn to get along with each other before your relationship falls apart?
Stop Arguing with Girlfriend Tip #1 – Let Go of the Small Things
Learn to pick your battles. You don’t have to get your way all the time. As a matter of fact, you probably won’t. If your girlfriend is ten minutes late (again) when she said she’d meet you, is it really worth it to go down that road and start bickering with her? Is it worth it to spoil to mood for the evening? If not, then just let it go.
Now, of course there are big things that any self-respecting man shouldn’t let go. When I tell you to never mind the small things, understand that I’m not telling you to look the other way while your girlfriend is sleeping with one of your buddies. If that’s the case, you should absolutely confront her and deal with the problem. But if she forgot to do the dishes–so what? Let it go!
Stop Arguing with Girlfriend Tip #2 – Tell her How You Feel
A lot of guys just keep chronic problems to themselves. They let a quiet rage build up until it explodes. This isn’t a productive way to handle things. If it bothers you that your girlfriend never bothers to pay for anything, for example, tell her that it doesn’t feel right to you.
Have an honest discussion about it instead of accusing her of being a gold-digger. You can often find that habits that annoy you are not part of some elaborate plot to make you miserable, but just a different way of seeing the world. Maybe she just feels loved and taken care of when you pay for things, and you can find other ways to make her feel loved and taken care of without draining your bank account.
Having an honest discussion is a great way to avoid an argument with your girlfriend.
Stop Arguing with Girlfriend Tip #3 – Look at the Big Picture
Oftentimes the things we get into arguments about may be small and trivial, but they might spell out a pattern of something more. Examine what seems to spark most of the arguments with your girlfriend and ask yourself how all of these things might be connected.
If most of your fights seem to be about money or not respecting your time, have a conversation about that. Tell her that when she does “X” it makes you feel “Y.” This will help both you come to an understanding of how you both feel about something. From here, you might try to come to a compromise or find a way to do things better.
The basic idea here is to learn to share you feelings with your girlfriend. Honesty is important and once the two of you can stop trying to be “right” and have an open discussion, you can finally stop arguing with your girlfriend and learn to live together happily.
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