So you and your ex broke up? I’m sorry to hear that. Break ups are never easy and there are often a lot of unresolved feelings following the end of a relationship. But can you and your ex be friends after a break up or is that just wishful thinking?
Like all things in life, the answer is not clear-cut. Sure, so people can go on to be friends after a break up, but for others it just turns into an unhealthy relationship.
Friends After a Break Up – The Good, Bad and Ugly
The Good
If you can be friends after a break up and still be friendly and nice with each other, that is always a great situation to be in. The two of you can see each other at a party and have a nice conversation without any resentment or backhanded. The two of you can remember the good times, and you’re both mature enough to laugh at all the petty disagreements you’ve had. Neither one of you is clinging to the idea of getting back together or hopelessly pining for the other.
The Bad
The bad side of being friends after a break up is when one of you really wants to be more than friends. One of you is eager and desperate to win the affection of the other back and does everything to please and make the other person happy.
This of course, isn’t real friendship. It’s a form of manipulation where one person is using the other as basically a glorified servant, constantly stringing the other along in the hopes that they can get back together.
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Thanks for the advice. I agree that being friends with an ex may not be easy, but it definitely can be done with some work and dedication. Just like anything else in life, it’s a lot easier said than done :)