So you’ve been using the No Contact Rule for a while now and you’re ready to break it. But how do you get your ex back after No Contact? Here is a breakdown of the next few steps to getting back together after a break up.
How to Get Your Ex Back After No Contact:
First, Make Contact
Get back in touch with your ex by sending them an email or message telling them that it’s been a while since you two talked (you have been doing No Contact, right? …Right!?).
They should be receptive to this if you haven’t seen them in a month or so. Try to avoid too much small talk and transition to asking them out to meet you in person. After all, you don’t want to tell them everything you’ve been up to now and leave nothing to talk about when you see them in person.
Second, Set Up a Meeting
The next logical step to get your ex back after No Contact is to meet up with them. If your ex girlfriend wants to meet up, then that’s fine, but if they don’t contact you first, suggest that the two of you meet for a cup of coffee or something else that is very low-pressure with little commitment.
If you pick something like a fancy dinner, it might make them more hesitant since if the two of you get into a fight, they may have to wait an hour or longer for the waiter to bring the check.
Keep things easy for both of you by picking something low-pressure like coffee or ice cream.
Third, Take Things Slowly
To get your ex back after No Contact when you meet up, keep things light and relaxed. Try to avoid bringing up topics that are overly negative, and don’t bring up the drama and bad feelings form the break up.
You can talk about these subjects if your ex wants to discuss them, but don’t go out of your way to remind them of negative things.
Take things slowly and start to date your ex at a fairly slow and steady pace. Don’t rush things. I know you want to get back together, but take the time to enjoy dating them again.
Fourth, Get Back Together
At a time that feels right, go ahead and ask your ex to get back together with you. Don’t make a big deal out of it, though. Just tell them that it seems like the two of you have been getting along well lately and that you’ve really enjoyed spending time with them.
If things have been good, then they should be open to the idea of getting back together.
If they aren’t quite ready to give the relationship another shot, just say something nonchalant like “just take it as a compliment” and laugh it off.
Remember, just because they aren’t ready now, doesn’t mean they won’t be next week. Don’t take rejection as a reason to give up. Just take it as feedback that right now isn’t right.
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