Sifting through the destruction and devastation in your personal life from a break up can be tough. You’re packing up all those mementos from your old relationship–the ticket stubs, the old photos, the little notes you wrote back and forth. It makes you really miss your relationship and wonder how to get your ex to like you again.
I know what it’s like to sit there, heartbroken and missing your partner, so let’s cut to the chase here. Here’s how to get your ex to like you again:
You have to be the person they first fell in love with.
Now, there’s a good chance that you’ve changed over the course of your relationship. Those happy times together and lazy Sunday mornings somehow got replaced by bickering and Monday morning rushing around. to put it bluntly you’ve changed.
If you want to get your ex to like you again, you need to undo all those negative emotions that have built up over time and go back to that initial spark that attracted the two of you together in the first place.
Think back to the time the two of you first met. Think back to those first few dates the two of you had together. What were you like? Were you happy and carefree? Were you more the shy and mysterious type? I don’t know, but that’s the kind of person that your ex likes, and that’s the kind of person you need to be again to get them to like you.
Of course, there’s also the possibility that maybe you did something wrong to make them dump you. Maybe you cheated. Maybe you lied. Or maybe you lost her dog when she trusted you to take care of it while she was gone for a bit (or is that just me?).
Anyway, if you blew it, you need to apologize for that. Make sure you know exactly what you are apologizing for, since just a generic apology just to smooth things over is just going to make your ex even more angry at you. Give them a heartfelt apology that you really mean.
Be okay with the fact that they might still be angry at you. That’s fine. People usually are more forgiving with time, and if you made an honest effort to make things right, then they really can’t hold anything against you.
That’s really how to get your ex to like you again. Become the person they fell in love with the first time around and give them an honest apology for anything you may have done wrong. Then just back off and let them soak everything in. It may take time for your ex to come around and warm up to you again, but just trust that this is really all you can do. Anything else may actually just set you back and hurt your chances in the long run.
