Many times when you have recently gone through a breakup you will wonder if your ex is giving you strong signals that she wants you back. She might not say that out loud but indirectly through her gestures and moves. She is probably scared that you might not accept her back once she has dumped you and that’s why she don’t say it directly. These are tell tale signs your ex wants you back and is willing to give your relationship a second chance.
When you get dumped, you instantly feel an intense pain of rejection. You don’t need me to tell you that. But what a lot of people don’t realize is that when your partner dumps you, they also feel a very intense emotion as well. It’s not rejection, but rather guilt.
No one wants to see themselves as the “bad guy” for hurting someone else. And your ex feels guilty about all the pain they’ve done to you. It’s not easy for them to overcome this guilt. (I got this from a Santa Clara University study).
But with that in mind…
Here are 5 signs your ex wants you back:
First Sign: She tries to contact you out of the blue!
If you get up one day and find she left a message on your cell phone or your e-mail then there is a chance that she wants you back. These are strong signals if she has tried to contact you without any obvious reason. She can try to make up a story but you can tell if it’s a genuine one or not.
Think about it. The only reason your ex would contact you is because you’re on her mind. And the only reason she’d be thinking about you is because… you got it! She still cares about you!
Second Sign: She starts showing her interest in you!
If it seems like your ex-girlfriend is calling you up almost every day, or that when you do talk, you talk for hours on end, it is likely that she still feels attracted to you and might want you back. Does she look for excuses to hang out with you? Remember to look at her actions and not what she says. Is she acting like she likes you and wants you back? These are signs your ex wants you back.
Again, we don’t like to spend time with people that make us feel bad, so we tend to avoid it. But if your ex is constantly going out of her way to see you, then you can clearly take this an a signal that your ex still cares (and might just want you back).
Third Sign: She tries to impress you!
You can really feel it if your ex-girlfriend has started telling you about her achievements at work or school. Not only that, but if she looks different and appears to be more charming and beautiful, than before than it is a positive sign she’s trying to pull you back towards her. She can change her hair style or get her hair dyed just to appear more sexy to you. Trying to impress you is one of the biggest signs your ex wants you back.
That’s right! She’s trying to impress you. No one, and I mean, no one does this unless they like someone or are trying to get validation from them in some way. This is huge.
Fourth Sign: Does she talk about the future?
Does you ex-girlfriend talk about things that the two of you can do down the road? If she keeps bringing up ideas about doing things with you in the future, then this is one of the big signs your ex wants you back. By talking about the future she’s telling you indirectly that she wants to be with you in the coming days, weeks, and months.
We don’t talk about doing things in the future with other people unless we see a shared future together with them.
Fifth Sign: You can see improvement!
If there was something that you did not like in your ex previously that she has now completely changed for the better? Maybe she was always late or never called you back when she said she would, but now she respects your time. This is definitely one of the common signs your ex wants you back. The main purpose here is that she is trying to show that she has changed and that she is trying to become the person that you want her to be.
Remember that you need to look at what she does and not what she says. Often times the two aren’t the same. It can be easy to say that you don’t want to get back together, but it’s hard to make your body language lie. So watch her closely.
Next Action:
I know it can tough to try to figure things out for certain. That’s why I’ve put together a little video that should be able to get you started on the path to getting back together. Check it out below, or share somethings that your ex has done that make you wonder in the comments below.
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