There I was sitting alone on my bed, holding the phone in my hand. My girlfriend had just dumped me a few weeks earlier and we just had one of “those” conversations after I tried unsuccessfully to get through to her. There were tears running down my face (un-macho, I know!) and I felt completely alone in the world. That’s when I decided to use the No Contact Rule.
Why No Contact with Ex Girlfriends or Boyfriends Works – “I Need Space”
If you’re reading this, then there’s probably a good chance you’ve heard something like “I need space” or “we should take a break” before. This is probably the most telling clue about why your ex dumped you.
For one reason or another, she just wants space in the relationship. Your ex wants to be away from you or the relationship for right now. That’s really what all break ups boil down to.
If you use the No Contact Rule, you are giving your ex the space that they want away from the relationship to reconsider their life. This doesn’t mean that you will necessarily lose them though. When they get this space, they might actually realize that they want to work things out with you or that their life with you wasn’t so bad.
The only thing is that they have to figure this out for themselves.
Why No Contact with Ex GF’s or BF’s Actually Makes Them Miss You
But there is also a very subtle psychological thing going on here. When you seem to back off and give them that space, they suddenly feel completely alone.
They have to live with the consequences of breaking up, in other words.
If you don’t contact them, they feel like they have no one to fall back on. No “safe” person to go to when they feel sad or unhappy about life.
This will make them think that you are moving on and that they are losing you. That means that they really might have to face single life on their own. This can seem frightening to them since they are probably used to having someone to talk to at the end of the day (you).
This will get them to miss you and they might even reach out during the No Contact phase (one of the big signs your ex wants you back).
Why No Contact with Ex GF’s of BF”s Can Save Your Relationship
Basically, they stop taking you for granted. They know that you’re not always going to be there for them ready to pick up the pieces if they mess up or decide that breaking up was a bad idea.
They learn to really value you and the relationship. They start to see all the great things about you again and really appreciate them.
Basically, this allows them to see you in the same light as when you two first started dating. They’ll see you with those same love-struck eyes and they’ll really relish all those things about you that are good.
So, if you’re considering using No Contact with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend, I strongly recommend it. You’ll feel a lot better in the long run, and it might just save your relationship.
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